From Michele: “I’m confused. I’m in my early to mid twenties and I’m realizing guys have been paying attention to me this whole time but were and still are being overly subtle. Only way I can pick up is if friends notice or some time later, I realize it. If I have tried to salvage, it becomes awkward on their end. What can I do to help combat this? Am I too oblivious perhaps?”
This sounds like a textbook case of Attraction Obliviousness. And the unfortunate news is that there isn’t an easy cure. Some folks just have trouble picking up on the signs. The subtle physical contact, the laughing a bit too long at things you say, and the random online communication might as well be in an alien language. There are things you can do to make your dating life easier, but before we get to that, let’s talk about why guys keep things vague. Continue reading